– Vallabh Chaitanya Das

It is not necessary to follow any of the instructions of the Vedic Sanatan Dharma Shastra just because it is a custom that has been followed throughout the Hachuva or as a ritual.  There must be a reason behind any action, and there can be no reason behind the supreme scriptural Vedic instruction  it is impossible.  What you don’t know or don’t understand is your ignorance, it is your foolishness to doubt the scriptures.

There are two physical and spiritual reasons behind the 13-day ritual process.

1.  Spiritual Reasons:

Just as the guarantee of a running time period of a watch is set by the companies, as if it is 10 years, so is this body (we are not the body, we are the soul), the time is also fixed of living in this world of death.

But even that 10 year guaranteed watch can be smashed with a stone on the first day or broken in half a year by using it indefinitely, as well as a body that has been given a certain period of time in this world of death by killing (poison or hanging or accident etc.)  By using (meat, alcohol, smoking, etc.) can be destroyed long before the period of living.

Even if the body received earlier than a certain period of time is destroyed, the subtle body of the human soul must remain in this mortal world for the same period of time until it attains another speed. Thus, the state of your or my transit time without a body is a ghost state.
Phantom state (you or I with a subtle body that has lost a gross body) is very frightening.  As the gross body dies, the living entity comes out with the subtle body.  He sees his relatives crying and tries to call them, but no one listens to him.  He shouts, “This is me,” but no one hears his screams, he only sees all around his dead groaning body.  Due to attachment, that subtle-bodied being begins to wander wherever its dead gross body goes.

“You die !!!  You left the body, go at your own pace !!! ”  The ghost that should be given the message that when he sees his companions crying, he becomes even more sad.  That is why the scriptures forbid weeping.
There is a scriptural instruction to destroy the gross body as soon as possible to give the impression that the living soul is “dead”.  Fire destroys the body completely and destroys the attachment of the living entity to its own body. On the contrary, in Western rites or other rituals, the dead gross body is buried in the ground and the living entity wanders around its dead gross body in attachment.  His desires / aspirations are the same as they were when he was in the body, but he cannot do anything without the body.  The addict lives around his own house / family.  He sees that the wealth he has accumulated all his life due to greed and misery has been misappropriated by others, he sees the man / woman he is addicted to rejoices in the fire of others, he suffers but he cannot do anything.
Man is born to attain God.  After the death of their husband or wife, the Vedic scriptures instruct both husband and wife to “renounce the lust of the opposite sex as much as possible from now on and recite the Ishwar Bhajan.”  In order to minimize the possibility of male bees around the widow like a bee in a flower, the widow is kept away from wearing makeup, hiding in white clothes, etc., and from now on, the main goal of human life is requested to be in Shrihari Bhajan as much as possible.  But so-called modern so-called modern women or women’s rights activists, immersed in the culture of the West, soaked in sense gratification and sexual gratification, also see such a targeted demand as a bondage, shouting that “women are despised by religion.”